Self-Regard… or How to Bring Ease and Flow by using Emotional Intelligence

How much do you like yourself? Sincerely, genuinely, warts and all?

I am asking as not all of us were taught to respect and accept our strengths and weaknesses. In scientific terms, we were never taught what self-regard is and how it contributes to overall well-being. But what is really fascinating is that self-regard is one of the four pillars of happiness. So basically, if you are on a quest to enjoy your life to its fullest, this is one of the most important things to learn and start working on.

This conceptual component of emotional intelligence is associated with the general feeling of security, inner strength and self-confidence.

What Is The Self-Regard?

Self-Regard is the ability to respect and accept yourself, essentially liking yourself the way you are, with all strengths and weaknesses.

Because individuals with high self-regard know their strengths and weaknesses, they are more willing to admit their mistakes and acknowledge when they do not know all the answers. It is usually associated with self-confidence and inner-strength, based on a well-developed sense of self-identity. People with high self-regard also exude " attractive " confidence and build trust. Who doesn’t want that, right?

Three-Step Strategic plan how to build Self-Regard

1. Like yourself. Deeply, madly and realistically.

The more realistically you are about your strengths and weaknesses (aka complete package), the more likely you will have a genuine concern for others and are more likely to share the responsibility for success and be accountable when things go wrong.

2. Do not bite off more than you can chew.

Set up realistic goals and admit the blind spots. Try not to overestimate your capabilities and outsource the tasks which do not belong to your zone of genius. This strategy will support a higher achievement rate and prevent could-have-been and should-have-been down the road.

3. Celebrate Yourself!

Take pride in your accomplishments and celebrate even small wins. This way, not only will you be working on the confidence-competence loop, but you also will build resilience, inner strength and self-adequacy.

“Be yourself. You are the most qualified person in the world for the job.“

As there is no magical recipe for happiness, since we know one of the ingredients, let's work on it. Let’s bring more ease and grace to our life by using emotional intelligence as a tool for a happier life. If you need more structured support – book a free discovery call, and let’s chat!